No Coasting - Leadership SHIFT Tip

“You ain’t putting in enough effort!”

Looking at my ATM receipt, that’s what I told myself on September 1st, 1990.

I was twenty-two and selling copiers and facsimiles in D.C.

That July, a big deal closed in my territory. I got a huge commission and The Salesperson of the Month Award for being 147% of goal. Not bad for my first month.

I started going out to dinner, picked up rounds at happy hour, and bought a few new suits. I was living large. But I didn’t earn it. The deal was in the works long before I applied for the job. I just got lucky.

In August, I was 50% of plan. I had an empty bank account and a sales manager who was doing his best Janet Jackson, “What have you done for me Lately” impression.

I was full of excuses.

“Yes, but I’m new.”

“Yes, but we are in a recession.”

“Yes, but my customers have no budget.”

The truth? I wasn’t knocking on enough doors. I was being lazy and believing success would come like it did in July. I was cheating myself like many of us do.

In cycling, you need to keep pedaling to become your best. You can’t coast for long and expect to stay with the peloton.

Too often we spend more time rationalizing why it’s smarter to coast than to pedal. We talk ourselves out of action or blame others for our circumstances. We make up stories about why we can’t be our best.

And it’s all

Because if we want anything worth having, then we need to put in the effort. Our inner critic and competition laugh at our stories as they hustle.

Success starts with one pedal stroke, then another, then another.

Hey, you can choose to coast. But before you do, ask others if they have any regrets. Many will tell you, “I wish I kept pedaling. I had more in me.”

And so do you. So keep pedaling.

Have Fun Storming the Castle!

Slip-Ups: Leadership SHIFT Tip

Several years ago I was preparing for a sales meeting as the new National Sales Director. It was a promotion that exceeded my original career aspirations. So naturally, I wanted things to go perfectly. 

Sadly, just two days before the meeting, my father-in-law lost his battle with Alzheimer's disease. I didn't know what to do. Should I honor my wife and family or show up for my "critical" meeting? I was stuck and didn't see any good options.   

I went to the meeting, but it didn't feel right. My head and heart were somewhere else. The stress made it difficult to practice my presentation. So I decided to wing it. 

For the record, winging it doesn't work.

My presentation was terrible. 

My new team had no way of knowing the stress and conflict that I carried up to the stage that day. Hey, I certainly gave them my desired different leadership vibe, but just with a little too much "oh, snap."

After the presentation, I wanted to escape and hide until the end of the meeting.  

For the record, hiding doesn't work either.  

My accident recovery taught me that we are defined by how we respond to our slip-ups. So, I took a P.A.U.S.E. to make a shift. 

  • P: Pause, Breathe and Reflect
  • A: Acceptance
  • U: Understanding
  • S: Strike a Pose, Say an Affirmation
  • E: Engage Again

Failures happen to everyone. When they do, we can become our worst boss. My pause helped me see a new perspective because things are never as terrible as we first believe. 

Life and careers can shift in a moment. How do you wish to respond? That is your first question.
  
Have Fun Storming the Castle!

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We can stop laughing at Jeff Bezos now.

Digital photos replaced Kodak.

Netflix replaced Blockbuster.

Apple replaced Sony.

Walmart replaced Sears.

And remember when Amazon started? Buying a book online?!? We laughed at that crazy Jeff Bezos. So did Borders. Consumers will never do that. We will be fine, they thought.

That was the case until Amazon replaced Borders. Today Amazon has our attention. Heck, for some, their most intimate relationship is with Alexa. 

Leadership requires risk-taking courage. It's believing that you will be part of a better tomorrow. 

It's easy to talk about change, but much harder to do. Because fear makes it difficult to assess the people, processes, and products that have helped you succeed to date. 

And the first person to evaluate is the toughest one. It's you. Because if you want your team to behave differently, you need to lead differently.  

The executives at Kodak, Blockbuster, Sony, Sears, and Borders had the same challenge. At the time, they were successful and stayed with the status quo. Too bad they didn't have Alexa back then. I bet she would have given them a different answer - except for Borders of course. 

Have Fun Storming the Castle!

P.S., If you have a leadership, entrepreneurial, sports performance, or mindset question that you don't want to ask Alexa, then ask me. Coach Dayne and I will answer it on The Friday Wrap-Up on Facebook Live.


If can't tolerate critics, don't do anything new or interesting.  

-Jeff Bezos

The Magician and The Farmer

It's easy for the magician to grab our attention. He wows us with his fast talk and faster hands. How does he make the amazing look so easy? We keep watching to learn how he does it. 

The farmer, with her grit, works far from the glitz and glamour of the bright lights. Because we are distracted by shiny objects, we don't see her empathic and weathered hands. Her work, like the magician, is also amazing, but we rarely wonder how she does it. 

In today's attention economy, it's easy to get drawn to the magician. With a big smile and snap of his fingers, success looks simple. His raw, edgy vibe helps him stand out. It gives him the appearance of authenticity, but it's all part of his act. So is believing that instant success is possible with the right magic wand. Which, of course, he is willing to sell for a price.  
 

Suffraunce (Patience) is a soverayn (supreme) vertue (virtue)  - William Langland, The Vision of Piers Plowman, c 1370
 

The farmer is different. She is ready at the crack-of-dawn. When others are sleeping, she is sowing, watering, weeding, and working. She trusts the process. That's how she goes to market.  


Any leader can learn a magic trick or two to make it to the next quarter. Gimmicks, although sometimes necessary, don't hold our attention for long.  

Lasting success only comes from hard work, empathy, and patience. The flashy magician will eventually disappear and be replaced by another. They always do. In the meantime, we will continue to plant and ship things out.

 

Have Fun Storming the Castle! 

This week's SHIFT Tip recommendation is to visit your local farmer's market. Learn how they do their amazing job of feeding the world. And check out their blueberries. They are in season.  

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What's On Your Postcard? - Leadership SHIFT Tip

Before we knew Jobs as Jobs, Malala as Malala, or von Drais as von Drais, they were just someone with a vision for a better tomorrow.

You may be thinking, ok, I know Jobs as Steve Jobs and Malala as Malala Yousafzai, but who is this von Drais person?

Well, since you asked, von Drais is Karl von Drais. 200 years ago today he improved our mobility by inventing the bicycle. Yes, our little bicycle has a birthday today. The cupcakes are on me.

But before we sing Happy Birthday, let me share a story about one postcard with a vision for a brighter future.

In 2014, I did a ride organized by Assos and Cyclesport. During our post ride nosh, the Assos representative told us about a little postcard tucked in our swag bags. He knew it could get pushed aside when searching for the “good stuff.” His pitch sparked my curiosity.

The postcard was the good stuff. It was for World Bicycle Relief (WBR). They mobilize people through the power of bicycles. They envision a world where distance is no longer a barrier to education, healthcare, and economic opportunity.

I was moved by the mission and became a member. In July, I will share how Shift, my upcoming book, will help WBR improve mobility and help others make their shift. And to think, it was all started by one little postcard with a vision for a better tomorrow.

What’s on your postcard? Is it time to place it in someone’s swag bag?

To celebrate the bicycle’s 200th birthday and The Year of the Bicycle, please sign their mobility pledge. #YearoftheBicycle

Of course, you can also hop on your bike and work up an appetite for a cupcake or two. But I got dibs on the Oreo one.

Have fun storming the castle. By the way, you can get there faster on a bike.

What We Buy and Who We Are

When I meet another cyclist, a common question I receive is, “What type of bike do you own?”

The curious ask me a different question, “Why that type of bike?” They are looking for the story.

Here’s some of it. They are hand built, mostly in the U.S., by artists with character and soul. Although unfamiliar to most, they have a following among us bike geeks. Each one, yes I have more than one bike-shocking I know, has a different story but a common thread.

With a little tug on that thread, the curious can learn how my favorite beer, music, charity, sneaker, and even where I went to college tells a story of being just on the outside of the mainstream. It even weaves through Peloton and my upcoming book, Shift. (more details below)

How about you? What do you want when you choose between Tag Heuer or Timex? Lululemon or Under Armour? Starbucks or Dunkin? Chucks or Stan Smiths? Whole Foods or Kroger? Abercrombie or Hollister? iPhone or Android?

Because after securing your basic needs of air, water, food, and shelter, you start selecting the wants that build your story and peloton. What are they? What about your team members? What about your clients and customers? Ah, that’s the big question.

Are you getting curious? You should — because it influences how they see your products, services, and you. Check out this infographic about wants fromBain from my marketing seminar with Seth Godin.

Oh, and if you are curious, I have a SpeedvagenIndependent Fabrication,Calfee, Kelly Bedford, Titus, and a Fabrica coming soon. Beer: New Belgium, Music: The Beautiful South/Depeche Mode, Charity: World Bicycle Relief, Sneakers: Adidas, and College: James Madison University.

Have Fun Storming the Castle or Mall!

Archie Never Wins the War - Leadership SHIFT Tip

Last week I was speaking at a networking event, and I met someone who was set on arguing about millennials and all the “other” people changing his world.

It felt like I was listening to Archie Bunker rant on about his “meathead” son-in-law. For those who don’t know Archie, he was the patriarch on, All in the Family. It was America’s top-rated show from 1971–1976.

Since he seemed more “addicted to being right” than open to influence, I tried to compassionately listen to his fears about staying relevant in a changing world.

We can make a sure bet — the world will progress forward faster than ever. And during our journey, we will have periods when we feel stuck or believe we are regressing.

Fortunately, younger generations will help pull us forward — just as we changed the societies our parents grew up in. Over time, they will help reduce inequality, promote diversity, and further merit-based ideology.

Archie may continue to argue with reality, but reality always wins.

Rebecca Solnit writes in her book Men Explain Things to Me,

“The United States is not going to be a mostly white country again — because genies don’t go back into the bottle and queer people are not going back into the closet and women aren’t going to surrender…And things continue to change in interesting and sometimes even auspicious ways.”

The leaders who accept and promote this will win. That’s an easy bet. And we can double down knowing that Archie may win a battle but never wins the war. Eventually, his show gets canceled.

Have Fun Storming the Castle!

In Addition To | Memorial Day - Leadership SHIFT Tip

Today in the States,

In addition to spending the day at the beach, spend time thanking those who stormed one.  

In addition to debating the battle between the Cavs and Warriors, debate if battle looks differently through the lens of mandated service. 

In addition to coming together for a BBQ, help us come together as a country. 

In addition to listening to those who share your worldview, listen to those with a different perspective. 

In addition to posting #memorialday #remembering, place a call to your Congressional members - Click here to see who represents you. 

In addition to enjoying your extra day off, provide joy to a veteran who needs a job. 

In addition to donating to Starbucks, donate to the Wounded Warrier Project or TAPS

Although most of us have not served, we can all be grateful for those who have given the most. Hopefully, we can all agree on that. 

Today we remember those who stormed the castle but didn't come back.  

Have a grateful and peaceful Memorial Day.

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Thank You! - Leadership SHIFT Tip

Three years ago this week, I had an early morning meeting with my new president. His charge was to usher in great global change. I would be his first one. 

In less than eighteen minutes, he told me I was out of my current job. To his credit, he offered me a different V.P. executive level position. The meeting was a total curveball. At first, I accepted the new role because it felt like the safe thing to do. 

But then I remembered I had a choice. We always have a choice - even when we feel stuck. 

Here is a passage from my upcoming book, SHIFT.

A few days into my recovery, while still in a delirious state, I managed to burble something that, in retrospect, seems especially fateful. As Lynn sat beside my hospital bed, I told her, “Find David; follow David Kolb. He is our leader.” Although she didn’t know who David was, Lynn didn’t press me on what I meant; she simply wrote down the name, and when I was more lucid, she asked me to explain. 

David was the first executive and team coach I had ever met...At the time, I hoped that one day I would be able to embody David’s calm demeanor and generous nature. But I suppose those weren’t the only things about him that I wanted to emulate. Although it would be many years until my own professional career transitioned into executive and team coaching, I suspect that my wheels were already turning subconsciously in that direction. And it was all because of David Kolb.

 

It would have been easy to believe that the new president pushed me out. But I choose to see it as a pull toward creating better tomorrows for you. 

Today is a day of gratitude. For that pull three years ago, the seed David planted years before, and to you for being part of my Peloton. I love being your domestique and promise to make your tomorrows even better. 

Thank you. 

Have Fun Storming the Castle!

Have a peaceful Memorial Day Weekend for those in the States.

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Hey, speaking of tomorrow, I will join Dayne Gingrich for our newFriday Wrap-Up Show at 5:30 pm Eastern. We will answer your Leadership, Career, Performance, and Mindset questions plus share one tip to make next week amazing.

Please join us. Click here to see the details. Oh, I promised Dayne that I would not dance if you all showed up.

Paychecks - Leadership SHIFT Tip

Turning can't into here's how.

Being accountable.

Pushing through your struggle.

Finding a new way.

Strengthening your work peloton.

Appreciating your customers.

Saving for a secure financial future.

Chilling on your well-deserved vacay. 

Giving to causes that matter.

Feeling the pride of identity.

Respecting your value.

Showing your family provider love.

Paychecks are about many things and usually not about the money.

What is your paycheck about? What about for those around you?

When you find the answer - you find their motivation. 

Have Fun Storming the Castle!

Start Where You Are. 

Use What You Have. 

Do What You Can. 

-Arthur Ashe

Pinball Wizard - Leadership SHIFT Tip

I was totally into bowling growing up. I had my own monogrammed bowling balls, shoes, and shirts. I even watched the Pro Bowlers Tour every week on T.V. 

Hmmm - that may have been too much information. 

Well anywho, after my Saturday morning league, I would spend my time feeding quarters into video games like Galaga and the pinball machines at the bowling alley’s arcade. Hey, nothing says healthy like a few more hours in a smoke filled bowling hall. 

I loved the frenetic dinging and pinging sounds of pinball. The faster the pace, the better the game in my book.  Throw in a little of The Who’s “Pinball Wizard,” and I thought I had full control of the ball’s movement through my two little flippers and exaggerated body language.  But I didn’t - the ball went where it wanted to go.  To be honest, I wasn’t that great at it - but I had enthusiasm. 

To me, pinball was fun, but it’s chaos as a communication strategy.

As a leader, you may think that an email, town hall meeting, or media interview will give you all the message control you need. But staying in front of your message is hard work.

If you don’t control your message, the message will control you.

It will ding and ping its way through your peloton. Ultimately going where it wants to go. Its frenetic pace will leave your team, stakeholders, and customers confused.

Then, when it’s too late, you realize you need to gain control of your message. So you try to shake it to where you want it to go, but end up tilting the machine.  Then it’s “Game Over.”

The good news is that you have more control over your message than playing pinball. As a leader, every event is a change event. It gives you another opportunity to play at your best so long as you plan. Corporate communication like story-telling and takes more thoughtfulness than just dropping another quarter into the slot. 

This Thursday’s recommendation is to check out the beautiful work of World Bicycle Relief. They use the bicycle to promote freedom. It’s a wonderful story.  

Have Fun Storming the Castle!

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My Best SHIFT - Leadership SHIFT Tip

Throughout my career, many have asked me to share my best decision(s). Well, in 1992, I ran my first marketing ad. 

SWM, 24, 6ft. 2in, 190lbs., college educated, professional, into cycling, running (10ks), hiking, HFS, going out, staying in, ISO SWF 23-25, intelligent, athletic, humorous, and not afraid of expressing her opinions on today’s events. Into having lots-of-fun with greater possibilities. 

My personal ad was placed in Washinton, D.C.’s City Paper and long before the popularity of match.com. I ran it out of curiosity - wondering who would respond to a personal ad. You had to be desperate to place or answer one, I once believed. 

Besides satisfying my curiosity, I thought if my experiment introduced me to a couple of new friends that would be a bonus. 

But it gave me more than that. It found my best friend, my wife, Lynn. 

That little eight dollar ad sparked a life of joyful big events like my nervous first date walk to Lynn’s front door, her beautiful walk down the aisle, and the magical births of our daughters. 

During our journey, I’ve learned that between these big events that true happiness is found when we look for our small moments of love and gratitude. 

Like when someone orders a lemonade, I warmly smile and remember the lemonades Lynn brought me every day of my recovery.  Or how I can watchSeinfeld or When Harry Met Sally with the sound off because she knows every word or how I often find myself thankfully concluding, “they are just like their mother” when thinking about my daughters. 

Our small moments of gratitude make happiness and strong relationships possible. They help us feel the love layered within our lives. 

Lynn and I celebrated our 23rd wedding anniversary yesterday.   

So, what has been my best decision? That’s easy, placing our ad. It’s the shift that has made all the other ones possible. 

Have Fun Storming the Castle!

Get Grit - Leadership SHFT Tip

Grit in your morning kale smoothie isn’t ideal but probably does little harm. But that grit on your bicycle chain or at work is a much different problem.

At first, you can power through its resistance. If ignored, grit builds up and performance suffers. It becomes the sandpaper that wears down your energy and relationships.

But grit, like most things in life, changes with perspective.

The grit of resilience and perseverance, as described by Angela Duckworth inGrit, actually creates better tomorrows.

It’s your inspiration to push forward. 

It’s your courage to challenge the status quo. 

It’s your long game that trusts the process.

Yes, grit comes in many forms. The only question is, “Where’s your grit?”

This Thursday’s recommendation is my 1% Blueprint Series with fellow coach, Dayne “Gritty” Gingrich. We would love to have you as we share some wisdom to help you build your blueprint for success. Details and the sign-up link are below

Have Fun Storming the Castle!

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It's Your Move - Leadership SHIFT Tip

When I was in 5th grade at Harris Hill Elementary, Mr. Hougton taught me how to play chess. I fell in love with the game. I still have my first set that I bought at the Hippotamus Mall with my paper route money.  

Chess is a great fusion of strategy and action. Although complex, the rules are straightforward. Bishops move diagonally, the Queen, as she should, can move anywhere, and white always makes the first move (yes this is true and a topic for another day). 

So, if you are playing white, it's easy to know that you are responsible for the first move. But making the first move at work and in life can be hard.

The easiest thing to do is to freeze or react. It's what most people do under today's stress. 

Some know that our emotions get the first crack at our experiences. They grab a P.B.R. (That's Pause, Breathe, and Reflect and not Pabst Blue Ribbon).  This helps them to mindfully respond. 

A few act. They know if they want a culture that values conversation, they need to start one. If they want a tribe that is comfortable with vulnerability, then they must show vulnerability first. If they want a peloton that is gritty, they need to role model resilience.  

The few who act don't wait for someone else to dictate strategy and action.  As others wait for someone else to make the first move, they are thinking three moves ahead.  That's how you create a better tomorrow. It's also how you win at chess. 

Today you are playing white. It's time to make the first move. 

Have Fun Storming the Castle!

p.s. But don't move your pawn to f3. That opening move stinks. Just sayin' 

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Trying to Build a Tribe? Here are 10 Conversation Tips to Start!

Social media tells you how important it is to build a tribe of like-minded people if you want to be more successful, happier, and healthier.

The trouble is, people don’t have the first inkling about how to do it.

What builds a tribe?

Many entrepreneurs believe all they have to do to “build a tribe” is to create an “ideal avatar” and offer it a lot of free stuff. So, they put their energy and tons of effort into creating lead magnets or free Kindle books because everybody says avatars love free stuff.

And corporate leaders who try to attract Millennials to their tribes are told to entice the younger set with chillax areas, free beer, beanbag chairs, and other “lifestyle benefits.”

But tribes are not built through lead magnets and office ping-pong.

In fact, these easy tactics are useless if they don't spark the activity that’s at the cornerstone of a connected tribe: Conversation.

Whatever Happened to Striking Up Conversations?

According to an article in The Atlantic by Paul Barnwell, "Conversational competence might be the single most overlooked skill we fail to teach students."

Conversation is also the biggest gap facing entrepreneurs and business leaders today, in my opinion. Conversational intelligence has atrophied under the stress of today's harried pace.

Yes, the art of conversation may be a dying art form, but there's still hope.

We can start practicing the art of conversation by thinking of our clients, customers, and young leaders as people first. They are not avatars (not sure which consultant came up with the one) or some hard to understand demographic.

Here are 10 Tips you can use to improve your conversations at work and in life.   

1.     Conversation is about Discovery: The tip of the iceberg is easy for all to see, as are other people's behaviors. But, it’s what you don’t see under the surface that matters most, in icebergs and people. And thanks to today’s reactive pace, we’re quick to judge people, as well. As result, it’s easy to believe that conversation is something we do TO others. It’s not – in spite of our social media behavior. Conversation is something we do WITH others. It gives us the opportunity to make the invisible visible and to see the emotions, values, and beliefs below the water’s surface.

"It's enjoyable to make things visible which are invisible" - Eric Cantona, Manchester United

2.     Conversation is about being Focus:  The best way to show you are paying attention is simply paying attention. It’s time to turn your device notifications off and be here now. Your undivided focus builds trust and allows for co-creation to start.

Focus not only helps enhance our conversations, it also helps our productivity. Watch Cal Newport, Ph.D., deliver a TEDx on Social Media and Productivity (13 minutes).

3.     Conversation is about Agility: Agility or flow happens when we set aside personal agendas and stay curious. Agility is about being curious and asking questions for which we don’t have the answers. Open-ended questions that begin with why, what, how, when, and work best. Curiosity questions promote listening and create the space for trust to grow.     

"I have no special talents; I am only passionately curious." - Albert Einstein

4.     Conversation is about Permission to be Wrong: It’s ok to be wrong. It’s also ok not to have every answer. I know that as leaders we believe that is a job requirement. But it isn’t. Conversational competence requires a willingness to be influenced, which means checking your ego, and accepting that someone else has a perspective worth hearing.

Listen to Kathryn Schulz’s take on what happens we get addicted to being right. Spoiler alert – the consequences are ugly. (2 minutes)

5.     Conversation is about Perspective: Our worldviews help us feel safe in a complex world. Given the fear baiting being shared today, it’s easy to trust only our own perspectives. But that fuels our addiction to being right. With openness, we can build empathy by bringing different possibilities into focus. After all, we all have the ability to change when we point our eyes in a different direction.

During my TEDx, I share the value of perspective and the idea that We Go Where Our Eyes Go. Below, I share what happened in my “Last Bad Day recovery” and how my career changed after I shifted my perspective. (12 minutes)

6.     Conversation is about Clarity:  Healthy conversation requires details to ensure clarity, and to build trust and understanding. Directness, with a “power with” versus. “power over” intent is a conversational essential. Of course, too much detail is as challenging as too little clarity.

"Take advantage of every opportunity to practice your communication skills so that when important occasions arise, you will have the gift, the style, the sharpness, the clarity, and the emotions to affect other people." – Jim Rohn

7.     Conversation is about Listening: Active listeners hear what is being said and what’s not being said. They know that body language and energy communicate just as much as words do.  Active listening means listening to connect and understand versus. listening to reply.

"If the person you are talking to doesn't appear to be listening, be patient. It may simply be that he has a small piece of fluff in his ear.” - A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh

8.     Conversation is about Exchange: Conversations that spark new possibilities often require debate. Yet, these types of conversations —the kind that sit on the edge between comfort and innovation— are the ones that create better tomorrows. The exchange of different perspectives can be challenging at times. It’s ok. It’s meant to be challenging. Lean into the conflict. Many people will take a step back and settle for good enough. A few will understand that anything worth having, like trust and success, requires effort and takes them closer to being their best.

9.   Conversation is about Acknowledgment: Today there are more ways than ever to connect with others. Yet, record numbers of people admit to feeling isolated and alone. Acknowledgment lets others know that they have been heard and they’re not alone. Care, compassion and love build trust, and declare that “WE” matter more than “I” matter. Acknowledgment builds trust and connection, and displays that you are giving your full attention.

This is one of the best videos on the value of acknowledgment. It’s two minutes long and “not about the nail.” (You will get the reference once you watch it.)  Husbands, boyfriends, and mansplainers, this one is for you

10.  Conversation is about Engagement:   

Building strong tribes and work cultures take effort and practice. The first step is enhancing your communication competence.

To start building conversational competence and your tribe, contact me via email.  I’m always open to a great conversation.

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How Could It Be Worse? - Leadership SHIFT Tip

When we lose a loved one, a job, or feel trapped between a rock and a hard place, it can feel lonely. Options that can help us move forward look dim, dimmer, and dimmest. When dealing with loss, it’s easy to play the victim. It’s easy to feel stuck.

When I started my recovery from my Last Bad Day, my options looked dim. Doctors told me I would have a lifetime of limitations. And despite all of the love and compassion from family and friends, there were many times when I felt alone. I felt stuck.

Luckily, I came around to accept that my accident could have been worse. I could have had a traumatic brain or spinal cord injury. I could not have made it.

As crazy as it sounds, asking myself the question, “How could it be worse?” was a small gratitude shift. It helped me see what I still could do. It sparked my resiliency and belief that nothing changes until we do.

Last weekend, while listening to On Being with Krista Tippett, this life chapter came boomeranging back to me. Krista was interviewing Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant. They recently released a book about resiliency called, Option B. During the interview, Adam spoke about the question I asked myself during my recovery.

We can escape our tough situations. But it takes a strong peloton and insightful questions to help us shift to a new perspective. It also requires the acknowledgment that it takes awareness, acceptance, action, and time.

If it’s Thursday, then I usually make a SHIFT Tip Recommendation. Today’s recommendation is to listen to Krista’s interview with Sheryl and Adam.

Note — This week’s SHIFT Tips have focused on making today matter, gratitude, and resiliency. I choose these themes as a tribute to Michael Migdal, D.D.S. On April 22nd, Michael died in a cycling accident. He was my dentist and a wonderful human being, husband, and father. It was a freak accident caused by his front tire blowing out. No cars or other cyclists were involved. His passing is a reminder to make today matter.

Let’s storm the castle for those who no longer can.

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One Day Older - Leadership SHIFT Tip

Today you are one day older. Congratulations!

Now, you may have awakened with a little hip or back soreness from your weekend warrior pursuits. Perhaps you noticed a new gray hair, wrinkle, or blemish and started to bemoan the fact that you are a day older. 

Of course, you can fight to turn back time. But that will not change reality, each day you either get older or you don’t. It’s that simple. It’s that stark. 

Life isn’t a marathon. It’s not a sprint. It’s not a destination. 

Life is today. 

You can live it by focusing on what you have lost. You could also show up with a sense of gratitude for what you have gained. Because today you have more wisdom and perspective. You know that age is just a number. Today you have another chance to spread kindness and change a life. Make today matter. 

Have Fun Storming the Castle!

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The Edge - Leadership SHIFT Tip

On the edge,

Butterflies flutter. Hearts race. Conflict emerges.  Self Doubt increases. Fear spreads.  Resistance strengthens.

On the edge,

We have a choice: Step back or step forward

Most step back — settling for good enough.

A few pause, breathe, reflect, and step forward. Because they know that their best self is on the other side of the edge.

So, in which direction will you step?

Today’s SHIFT Tip Recommendation continues April’s health theme. Click hereto see a video recipe of my favorite breakfast smoothie.

Have Fun Storming the Castle!

To help you take that next step, Coach Dayne and I have developed The Trust Series. We will debunk five common beliefs that prevent many from taking the next step. It’s free of charge, and you get a free eBook that can help you maximize your success. Click here to learn more about the Truth.

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Culture Building - Leadership SHIFT Tip

How is a culture built? 

Corporations, colleges, and communities have spent millions trying to answer this question. The answer, whether you aim for collaboration or competitiveness, is the same: conversations. Conversations build your culture. 

Seth Godin writes in The Icarus Deception

Everyone we interact with is changed forever. The only questions are: 

How will they be different? How different will they be? 

Our conversations change others. They are the building blocks to every relationship. And although not ideal, our emails, text messages, and social media posts are part of the mix. So are the conversations we have with ourselves- they are the most important ones of all. 

So before starting another culture building initiative, exam the health of your relationships. If you don’t like what you see, then it’s time for a conversation shift so you can build the peloton you desire. 

Have Fun Storming the Castle!

p.s. A few weeks ago Netflix’s released 13 Reasons Why. It’s a new series that examines teenage suicide. The series isn’t perfect and its flaws have been highlighted by mental health experts.

If you have a teenager, then I’m guessing that they know about it. The series gives parents a conversation opportunity and reinforces that words and conversations matter. My oldest daughter wrote a blog about her reaction to13 Reasons Why. It may be something worth sharing with your teenager. Click here to read.

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Freedom - Leadership SHIFT Tip

When we were younger, our first taste of freedom came when we learned how to ride a bike. Our bike gave us a chance to explore. We could go places without our parents.

This little spark of independence grew over time. We looked forward to trading our bike for a car and going to college. Then we looked for a career that gave us a chance to make our mark.

Along the way, we learned that freedom is earned through trust and accountability.

When we didn’t come home on time, our parents’ leash got a little shorter. When we failed to deliver on promised expectations, our manager treated us like our parents did before we knew how to ride a bike.

So, if you want more freedom, start by being more accountable. You can start with yourself and how you honor your values.

Photo credit and special thanks to John Scialdone from Scialdone Photography.

Today’s SHIFT Tip Recommendation continues April’s health theme. I’m a big fan of Ketones by Pruvit Keto OS. To be honest, I was a skeptic at first and have lived its benefits.

Have Fun Storming the Castle!

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